maytag
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« on: July 12, 2011, 10:50:44 AM » |
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Hey guys, I am a sophomore in high school (16). Recently started dating and have gone through a couple girls. Last relationship lasting 4 months, and this one is on its 4th month. My issue is that my current girlfriend is really emotionally attached to me. She says she loves me ect. I tell her a I love her too (was this a mistake? I tell this to all my friends - Maybe the phrase "I love you" is too lightly used")
My girlfriend is always very hurt when we have arguments and such. If I broke up with her, I'm scared it would really hurt her and would take her a while to forget. Consequently, if she were to break up with me... I believe I could get over it in a day or two. I feel high school relationships are to have fun, and should not be too serious.
I just explained this to my girlfriend and she says she understands.... but is it that easy?
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Soidoncare_Okayica
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« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2011, 06:28:16 AM » |
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Good ole backhand usually works  |
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Nicole
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« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2011, 05:30:05 AM » |
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Girls are naturally just really emotional. No matter how many times you say stop being so emotional. It is part of a girls nature. Sometimes you just have to let it be.
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ilyy
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« Reply #3 on: July 21, 2011, 12:06:35 AM » |
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i think that it was a good thing for you to explain to her how you feel. i agree with everything you said. she needs to release that usually highschool relationships dont last. just try to keep your space and shell start to detach. make sure shes aware of how you feel. since you think you could get over her so quickly, you probably dont have strong feelings for her.. i would break things off slowly
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Nikolai_Belinski
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« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2011, 08:59:50 AM » |
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You should dump her IMMEDIATELY! Don't let her become anymore attached if you aren't planning on having a serious relationship. It'll hurt her more.
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talulla_falls
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« Reply #5 on: July 21, 2011, 02:26:19 PM » |
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no it will be hard for her, but its ok. If you're not looking for a serious relationship tell your next gf that or you could end up in f****d up situations...trust me
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Briana
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« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2011, 09:25:20 AM » |
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uhh, if you loved her it would take you more then a day or two to get over her.
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« Reply #7 on: July 22, 2011, 11:37:01 AM » |
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Yeahh, you can't get girls to be less emotional. It's called hormones. xD. Good luck with that, hahaha. Sometimes I'm REALLY glad I'm not a dude  |
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The_Voice_of_Reaso
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« Reply #8 on: July 22, 2011, 12:08:36 PM » |
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Getting girls to be less emotional is like stopping the sun from rising: it can't be done.
Girls at 16 are just discovering their emotional side, and they tend to let it run away with them. It'll always be part of their nature, but time and maturity teach them to control it, and they don't have that yet.
My advice? Don't date anyone until you're ready for a committed relationship. Otherwise, you're going to end up asking questions like this until you are, and leaving a lot of heartbroken girls behind.
P.S.: Leave the girl you're with currently. It may break her heart, but if you wait any longer, it'll only get worse.
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helloooo
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« Reply #9 on: July 22, 2011, 01:52:54 PM » |
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I agree with your point of view - that high school relationships should, for the most part, be taken lightly.
However, everyone is different. Some people aren't as tough as you are on the inside. Just let the relationship unfold and if you feel the need to break it off, just do it gently. She'll be hurt, but that's life. You explained to her that you didn't intend to have a serious relationship, so it's not your fault if she gets upset.
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Ice_Queen
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« Reply #10 on: July 22, 2011, 03:54:37 PM » |
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Take out her uterus.
Ya your her first. Shes basically screwed. I guess if you still like her a lot there is no point breaking up or anything. Who know maybe you will be that 2% of high school couples that grow up and get married. Its high school live in the moment when the time comes the time comes, don't try to control it now.
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J_Frost
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« Reply #11 on: July 22, 2011, 04:02:23 PM » |
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Asking girls too be less emotional? Your hilarious... I'm just being honest as a 15 year old girl who is also a sophomore in high school who has been in a relationship for a year. Your asking way too much... Of course girls are gonna get attached. WERE GIRLS. you don't seem like the serious type... So maybe you should wait to have a relationship. Because if your attitude is to "have fun" I wouldnt recommend getting physical unless you truly love and care about someone... Or at least tell the girl ahead of time that you want to start out slow... You can't ask her to be less emotional, it just won't happen. You shouldnt be dating anyone right now with your attitude, you don't seem like the commitment type, and your girlfriend does. So you shouldn't lie to yourself, cuz not all high school relationships end fast, ever heard of a high school sweet heart? Get a reality check or read about teenage girls, cuz you obvious don't know sh*t about us buddy
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Tiffany
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« Reply #12 on: July 22, 2011, 04:14:20 PM » |
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Look dude im a 16 year old girl & girls are always emotional when it comes to their boyfriends. Our hearts are not toys & you cant just go around telling girls you love them & don't mean it. & if y'all have ever had sex with each other that's part of the reason. Sex gets you emotionally attached to a person. If you don't love her you shouldve never told her you did. Because then you lied to her & one thing girls really despise is LIARS. & high school relationships are suppose to be fun at times but as soon as one of you say "I Love You" it really gets serious. Love can make you do some crazy things. & it really hurts when you love someone & they don't love you back. Broken Hearts takes forever to fix. Remember That The Next Time You Tell A Girl You Love Them.!
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JenChenKid
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« Reply #13 on: July 22, 2011, 04:20:02 PM » |
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I completely agree with you that the words "I love you" is used WAY too lightly and in a way, over-used. High school dating should really be for just experimenting on which type of person is right for you, and if it works splendidly then great, it might last till college. You can't really get a girl to be less emotional to be honest, she probably understands and will even probably go out the way to even ignore you at times now or she could be just as clingy.
If it really isn't working out for you then just break up with her, because it's better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie: the truth being you didn't want to be with her, the lie being you still want to be with her and that you love her. She would get over the break up eventually because one boy is nothing to cry and mope over (no offense). Good luck!
-JenChenKid
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Cici
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« Reply #14 on: July 22, 2011, 04:31:09 PM » |
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OK, explaining to your girlfriend that you'd be able to get over her in a day or two, if she broke it off, isn't the best way of breaking the ice here. If you want her to be less emotional, in arguments etc and in general, then you have to speak quietly and calmly even when you're really pissed off. If you raise your voice, she'll raise hers, it keeps on going til both of you and so tense that she's all emotional and you're worried she'll either break something or break herself! XD If that still doesnt work, and she's sill emotional, you should break it off and tell her that you really do like her but it's all a bit too serious. As a girl, I know she's probably gonna be upset or angry if you tell her that you don't really seriously love her, and you mean it a little bit like the way you do with friends. So, you're going to have to be really apologetic and nice when you break up with her. Good luck don't worry too much, if you can |
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