i have been dating my boyfriend since high school (4years). we are now both 21 still live at home (not together) and last year we bought a house together. we were going to move in straight away but thought we could rent it out for a bit so we could gather up some furniture/money etc..we do love each other(well he says he does) in nearly other aspect he is fine (doesnt drink/gamble/funny)
We have been renting the house out for about 14months. But he has been more interested in buying stuff for his cars/bikes and other stuff then trying to put aside money for us. I dont mind him having hobbies but when your trying to save money you dont go out and 30K car loan 5K credit card that you max out to buy bits for your car. He did. he has a good job paying 65k a year and i make 28k a yr. he pays half of the mortgage repayments (shortfall from the rent we receive which isnt that much) and i pay for the other half. i have to force him/remind him to pay this EVERY single month.
But on top of that I am left paying everything else for the house like Insurance/repairs/water (usual landlord stuff) When i ask for half the money for the bills he always makes up some excuse how is broke or he has forgotten to get it out etc..
He tells me i am his world and he really loves me and how he cant wait to live with me. But then why isnt he helping me when he can see i am struggling to pay all the bills myself? he says he will pay them and never does. i have sat down and told him everything and when i ask him why he doesnt he just says i dont know/i forgot and that he will try harder... 2 months later he still hasnt changed. It feels like he wants EVERYTHING cars/bikes/house/me (in that order) but doesnt wants to do nothing to get it.
I just feel he is really immature. he is an only child and has always had everything. but now he is older his parents dont give him as much but is tried to still maintain the lifestyle of having everything. i have tiredly repetedly talked to him about this and its always the same (i'll try harder) will he ever try harder. is it because we are only 20 and girld mature faster than boys and i should just stick it out?
If i felt like he was showing even half an interest in us, instead of just himself i would be ok.
The problem is I just dont know if i should just brake up with him and try to move on (even though i do really love him) but then i am scared that in a couple of years time he is gonna grow up and start showing some responsibility then ive missed out because he is a good guy. i dont know wether to move into the house with him (in 2 months time) and see if he changes or to just break it off with him now, before things are harder to seperate. HELP.
sorry this was so long. x
