Thurnis
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« on: July 20, 2011, 02:16:27 AM » |
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I'm 17 and tired of being "property" of my parents, my home life is a mess and personally I feel like I'm 100% ready to go out and face the world on my own. However, Im still obliged to spend another year with my parents. I can't stand them herding me like a sheep, dictating what's right and wrong for me and forcing their moral views upon me. It seems so twisted that even at my age I can be controlled this much. I feel that whether or not I want to smoke should be MY choice, that what religion I want to practice should be MY choice, that who I want to date should be MY decision. I have literally no autonomy. The lack of freedom I have is oppressive and almost feels unconstitutional.. My parents don't approve of any of my hobbies, friends, interests etc and they keep me locked in the house like a prisoner. America is all about freedom, right? . While I think parents should be responsible for their kids to a certain extent, I think 18 is excessive. Why are we not considered adults in 18? The prospect of another year under this roof is unbearable, I don;t know what to do
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Liam_Stephenson
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« Reply #1 on: July 22, 2011, 07:34:02 PM » |
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Its coz americas gay
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Shawn
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« Reply #2 on: July 22, 2011, 11:17:17 PM » |
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Your really not allowed to do everything until 21. Actually 35 because you have to be 35 to be president lol. You and me are minors, your not property of you parents your just not an adult until 18
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Wayne_T
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« Reply #3 on: July 23, 2011, 03:10:44 AM » |
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Partly because your parents are responsible for you, and partly because you don't know as much as you think you do. When you can pay your own rent, then you can do mostly as you please; otherwise you live by the rules of the house. Even when you get your own apartment, there are still some rules.
If your parents are actually locking you in, you might could claim abuse.
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apple_picking
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« Reply #4 on: July 23, 2011, 03:27:07 AM » |
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Because at 17, you are still in high school.
You don't have real freedom until you graduate. You aren't fully developed until then.
The best advice I can give you is to get a job now, finish high school, try to go to college, and stay strong, because this mess you are in and the things you feel like you can't control are only a test to make you a stronger and better person in the future.
Also you'll notice when you are a little older the maturity difference between a 17 year old and an 18 year.
Even when you're 19 and 20, you'll notice the maturity difference between then and 18.
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Bob_Jones
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« Reply #5 on: July 23, 2011, 04:37:20 AM » |
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Its acrually until your 21 pal, we're old enough to go kill people in other countries and get killed at 18 but not old enough to get drunk at 18.
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Kel
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« Reply #6 on: July 23, 2011, 04:49:20 AM » |
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The fact that you can't see why is reason enough to be kept at home for another year. Are you responsible enough to decide if you want to smoke - AND pay the bills? Get credit? Keep a full-time job? Buy your own groceries? Are you going to bother to cook for yourself? Do your own laundry? Pay your own insurance? Keep the lights on? If you would be in an accident, are YOU ready to be the one they sue?
Yes - we all feel like that when we're 17.......and then we get out in the world and live there for a bit...and THEN realize how good we had it.
Don't rush it - once you're out, you can't go back.....and its not as "fun" as you think.
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D_S_T_A_R_S
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« Reply #7 on: July 23, 2011, 05:02:17 AM » |
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When you have your own kids you will know why it is important for parents to give some direction to their kids. As a kid your age I thought I was a know it all as soon as I graduated the world whooped me up pretty good im still paying for some of my early mistakes. I can tell you right now If I were your age knowing what I know now, I wouldnt be in a hurry to get under my parents wings so fast. Good luck, and be careful what you wish for cause sometimes wishes come true and they are not always are as you thought it would be.
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Da_BoizZ
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« Reply #8 on: July 23, 2011, 05:36:53 AM » |
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get over it
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Joseph_Wall
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« Reply #9 on: July 23, 2011, 05:46:55 AM » |
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im 21 now but i was in the same boat... talk to your mom and dad and tell them this is whats up... tell them this is what you like and if they dont... dont do it in front of them... im not saying go behind there back... and if things dont get better get a job... save up... and at 18 get out... thats all you have to do really... but you have to money coming in and food in your belly....
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2_of_cups
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« Reply #10 on: July 23, 2011, 06:30:08 AM » |
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The age of majority used to be 21 years old, it was lowered to 18 in the 1970s...with freedom comes responsibility, if you want to be free then take responsibility for yourself. That means financially, morally, provide your own housing, food, transportation, education, everything...are you ready?
I left home at 17 years old and took responsibility for myself and my parents agreed to that...but they weren't playing around, I was on my own. Can you do this? I paid for my own college, apartment, food, transportation, all of it.
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Jakey100
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« Reply #11 on: July 23, 2011, 06:52:09 AM » |
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Poor you. If you lived here in England, you could leave home and be fully emancipated at 16! You could even join the army and die for your country. You could get married and buy a house. Strangely, you can't have driving lessons until you're 17 or drink in a bar until you're 18. England is a strange place.
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adam_adam
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« Reply #12 on: July 23, 2011, 07:02:58 AM » |
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emancipate yourself.
wait, you couldnt do that without help from your parents, nevermind.
no, seriously, if you can prove you can take care of yourself, then you can legally move out. and cops wont exactly be kicking down doors looking for a 17yr old runaway.
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CTC
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« Reply #13 on: July 23, 2011, 07:06:33 AM » |
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There is no complete Freedom even in America but its alot better than in some places in the world.
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